When I was little, my Dad always taught me that the only people that depend on women for money are Bums and Children. He strongly believed that a man, (a real man) should never have to depend on a woman to take care of him, and that he should always earn his own money. This is something that has been with me all of my life. Whenever my spouse offers me money, I have always rejected it, regardless of how badly I needed it. She states that she sometimes feel offended by this. (almost as if I'm throwing it back in her face) and thinks that I'm "Old Fashioned". Is there anyone here that lives off of a woman and feel comfortable with it?
I happen to make more than my wife at this point. In the past it has been reversed. It never bothered me.
The fact that she even has to offer, Startard, must mean that you aren't worth shit. Of course, we knew that already.
There's a big difference between "can you buy dinner tonight?" and "can you pay my share of the rent this month?"
From my own experiences in life, it's best that both men and women know how to take care of themselves without expecting anyone else to.
I take money from the wife all the time. I know she got the money out of my check most likely. How else am I going to get any cash?
There's nothing wrong with a woman helping her fella out with the finances, but for a man to be completely dependent on his woman when it comes to money is shameful IMO. Able-bodied "House husbands", the sort of men who stay home doing the housework while their women bring home the bacon are almost contemptible. Unless these men are taking a career break and just want to spend some time with their kids, or have earned enough to live on for the rest of their lives, I wouldn't consider such fellas to be "real men".
I bought this topic up with a collegue of mines. He says that his wife told him that: "as a woman, she was brought into this world with a born cash drawer between her legs. Something that any respectable man should be willing to pay for" He says to see if it were true, he kneeled down, and punched her in the cunt, to see if any money came out
I feel bad for your wife, Starguard. Just as a general comment. Back to the topic: I disagree completely. Nothing would make me happier to be a homemaker while the wife made all the money. I need to find a career-driven femiNazi who can make my dreams come true. If she insists on being on top during sex, that would be the icing on the cake.
I was raised the same way, that the man in the relationship should be the one taking care of the family. I see nothing wrong with a woman that can take care of herself, for sure, and that's what I'm working toward right now. BUt I'll be damned if I'm going to take care of a man. Double standard turned around, sure, but that's the way it is.
What if the woman makes $100k+ and the man is some poor schmo like a shoe salesman? Would it make sense for the guy to be the breadwinner in that case?
You know what? I would LOVE a househusband. Firstly, because I have the narcolepsy thing, meaning that my quality of life is SERVERELY improved by a strict routine. Plus, I'd go insane as a housewife. Plus, the general housekeeping is liable to suffer if I have periods of just feeling too tired to do it, especially if I were only working part time (or housewifing) and therefore only had a partial routine? Why WOULDN'T I want to come back from my amazingly challenging and fulfilling job to a clean house, a beautiful garden, all the errands done, and dinner cooked and ready by my wonderful husband??! And if all it means is that he does that stuff during the day, and spends any free time building his planes, DJing, and generally being a lazy bum with his friends, why would I ever turn that option down?? Feminism - fuck yeah.
If you aren't joking, that's bloody tragic. Unless you also think it's wrong for a woman to be 'completely dependent' on the man in her life, in which case I'd still think you were wrong, but at least you'd be consistent. If a couple decides that they want one person to be at home full-time with the kids, and if it makes more economic sense for the woman to be the one brining home the bacon, then they'd be bloody stupid to do it the other way around just to satisfy some Victorian attitudes towards gender roles. Personally, I think that for all but a very few people - of either gender - staying at home full time with kids is about as mind-numbing as it could get, but that's just me. I've said before, we get childcare all wrong in this country: anyone who likes small babies can look after a small baby properly: there's nothing wrong with going back to work and seeking out good childcare. But a teenager needs a parent at home: someone who knows them, loves them, and will support them: that's when parental leave should be available. And if the dad would be better at that, and the mum at earning the moolah, so be it: they're both doing bloody important jobs.
